15 Reasons Why Women Over 50 Choose to Stay Single Like Me

There was a time when being single scared me. Maybe fear isn’t the word I’m looking for. This gave me anxiety and made me sad. I never wanted to be single. I love being in a relationship with another person. I love unity and I love love. Being alone? Not really.

But then I hit 60 and everything changed for me. I still love love and there are days when I wish I had a friend, but these days are few and far between. I now have a dog and a cat; Sounds good enough to me. Women are good alone. When I talk to a lot of my single girlfriends, it seems that the majority are quite content to stay single and have no desire to hook up, remarry or recommit, and here are the honest reasons why.

Here are fifteen reasons why many women over fifty choose to remain single:

1. Freedom

The number one spot goes to freedom. We’re free to do what we want, when we want, with whomever we want, and we don’t have to answer a million questions when we get home.

2. Whole bed

Thank God. We can spread sideways and diagonally, lie down like snow angels, use all the pillows and store all the blankets. We can turn the fan on full blast, open all the windows, and listen to whatever we want until we fall asleep. Happiness.

3. Fruit loops for dinner? From where.

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We don’t have to cook if we don’t want to. Fruit Loops for dinner? Or maybe Sugar Frosted Crisp. Or maybe we order what we want, from wherever we want. Yes.

4. No interest in settling down

We’re pretty sure it doesn’t exist, and we’re not going for Mr. Will Do It For Now. We don’t settle for anyone these days, so we just stay single. If Mr. Right shows up, open the champagne bottle!

5. Road trips anytime, anywhere

This is pretty much like #1, but we can hop in the car, book a flight, take the train, and go where we wantwhenever we want. You don’t need to sit with your partner for hours and argue about locations, details, money, blah blah blah. We are on our own and having the time of our lives.

6. Hurt by past relationships

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Some women are so scarred by previous relationships that they don’t take any further risks. Finished. They don’t need to go through the getting-to-know-each-other phase again to find out that Mr. Looks Good lied to begin with and now we’re even angrier and even more hurt. To go past.

7. You don’t have to worry about confusing love with friendship

We don’t have to worry about no one liking our friends. These are our friends, and if someone else doesn’t like them, that would be very bad for you. We You don’t have to compromise on friendships. (yes, some people do that) for a relationship.

8. Zero compromise on TV shows

No sharing the remote, no having to watch disgusting football, no having to fight over which movie to watch. Nudda. We can watch what we want, whenever we want, as much as we want, and we don’t have to feel guilty.

9. Nobody touches us

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If you know, you know. In one of my previous relationships I was constantly groped and it sucks. Now listen, I don’t mind little acts of love and affection, but groping is downright disgusting and barbaric. I’m Tarzan, you’re Jane. No thanks.

10. Saying no to intimacy without feeling guilty

If I’m in the mood, great; If I’m not in the mood, go please yourself. I hate that war. Why do women have to feel like we have to perform or please on a dime? We don’t always want to.

11. The ability to please ourselves

Listen, we’re all friends here, right? Sometimes I I don’t want intimacy And I can take care of myself.

12. You don’t have to share the money

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It’s all mine. I worked hard for this. I don’t want to have to ask someone if I can buy something with my money. We also don’t want to have to support someone with the money we worked until the end of time for. We can do whatever we want with our money and we don’t have to answer to anyone for it.

13. More time to care for parents

Or maybe I should move in with him or whatever. Maybe my family needs me 24/7 and I don’t have the time or energy to be with a partner. I can decide to be with my family full time and not have to sacrifice anything when it comes to the relationship.

14. More time to care for pets

If we want five or ten cats and four dogs and we want to get a bunch of sitters, we can do that without asking anyone’s permission. We can have as many animals as we want. You know, they don’t call us ‘Crazy Catwoman’ for nothing. We won this title.

15. Peace and quiet

Women want peace, plain and simple. When we’re single, we can come home alone, with our ten cats, seven dogs, and 15 babysitters, pour ourselves a bowl of Fruit Loops, Love is Blind, and I don’t have to listen to anyone whine or moan. Total happiness.

So, on the other hand, there are times when I loved friendship; I don’t need someone constantly appearing in front of me.

I wouldn’t mind going out on a dinner date every once in a while. A movie history It would be nice. But getting married again and moving here? At this stage of my life I can’t see that happening.

I’ve come a long way and realized how useful some things in my life are. It would be great if I could find a good man who would be available for a part-time companionship. If not, that’s great too. I am good with my animals.

Iva UrsanoOriginally from Canada, she runs the website Women Blazing Trails, where she helps women over 50 reboot, embrace aging, and so much more. His work has been featured on MSN, Tiny Buddha, Medium, Steven Aitchison, Mamamia, and Your Tango. When she’s not writing, she helps stray dogs in her small town in Guatemala.