4 Reasons Why Ex-Boyfriends Come Creeping Back | Lorna Poole

Ex-boyfriends are notorious for trying to get back in touch the most suitable times – think holidays, birthdays, and (dreaded) anniversary dates. I understand You’re still single, he’s (obviously) still sweet, and he pops up at just the right time (when you’re feeling lonely and nostalgic). And just when you think everything might be fine, it disappears. It’s all about heartbreak again.

Four reasons why ex-boyfriends keep coming back

1. Because you keep asking “what could have been”

Until you meet “the one,” every man you’ve been with in the past has asked you, “What if?” will ask the question. Because until you meet the right guy, the last guy who pulls your heartstrings will feel like the best man you’ve ever had, even if things are far from perfect.

I have yet to meet someone who left a bad relationship, actually recovered, and said they regretted leaving that relationship. So do yourself a favor and stay true to the reason you broke up in the first place. trust your instinct and continue.

2. Because you keep answering his texts and phone calls

As painful as this sounds, men often continue to communicate with someone, not because they care, but simply because you are someone to talk to and continue to respond. From where? Because for now you’re filling that emotional (or physical) void. Are you still sleeping with him? Are you telling him about your day or are you talking to him about his other relationships?

Kayleigh Jordan Mahoney’s research, DePaul University suggests As long as there is a need met by you or on his/her part, there will always be contact. So if you are filling a void in yourself or in them, move on and focus on building a new, healthier relationship with someone else.

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3. Because you’re sending mixed signals

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Just as you meander past him and his charm and the things you love about him, he stirs up all those emotions again. He wants you but he’s not ready. You miss him but you don’t want to deal with his problems. Discovered by a study published in Interpersonal Diary. He wants to be in a better place before he starts you two.

mixed signals confuse you both and it’s a sign of your unstable relationship (which is why you both broke it off to begin with). Take these signals and decide to go one way or another and then stick with it.

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4. Because it feeds on your high emotions

You need to get off the emotional rollercoaster. Published research Frontiers in Psychology helps show Any relationship that is inconsistent and full of ups and downs is like a drug, addictive. You have to let go and make a clear decision: “I want a loving relationship with a wonderful man.” To get what you want with the right man, you have to let go of the old.

Creating a new, useful relationship is much easier than fixing what’s broken. You’re already done with everything, so gather your weapons and tell him: “I’m sorry — I value myself and I want more than that. I don’t want waste my time and effort constantly trying to fix an old model. We have a broken relationship. Bye.”

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Lorna Poole is an international coach and professional speaker. It empowers women to love beyond fear, pain, and regret to attract the partner they truly deserve.