Dear Abby: Can our long-distance relationship work until our children are 18?

DEAR ABBY: I got out of rehab two months ago. While there I met someone. “Annie” lives in Florida and I live in California. We both do great work and I believe we make each other stronger.

Do you think a long distance relationship can work? I heard this is not possible. He was recently divorced and so was I. Annie has two children, ages 15 and 16, and therefore cannot leave Florida. I also have two children, ages 11 and 16, and I cannot leave my state for the same reason. But our kids are going to college in a few years and I really care about that.

I know how hard it is to find someone. I’ve dated 20 women in the last three years. None of them are someone I would want to be in a relationship with. Annie is perfect for me. I said we should take it one day at a time. He flew here twice to see me, and next time I’ll fly to see him too. I know this relationship has its challenges. People tell me that anything is possible and that I should see where it takes us. — HOPE IN THE DESERT

Dear hopeful: In three years, Annie’s little boy will be 18 years old. Will their children go to university? It will take seven years for your little one to be considered an adult. Will Annie be able to move to California when she’s no longer bound by a custody agreement?

I agree with people who tell you anything is possible. This is the truth; as long as you and Annie are ready for a long-distance relationship for years to come. You both have sobriety to maintain, children who need support, and relationships with exes that may or may not be problematic. For the foreseeable future, you and Annie should agree to keep your options open and not rule out dating others. If you are meant to be together, it will happen.

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