I refuse to go to my sister’s wedding because she is marrying my ex but my family is taking her side

A woman questioned whether she was wrong to refuse to attend her sister’s wedding because she was marrying her ex.

The 27-year-old, whose name was not disclosed, revealed on Reddit that he had a history with his sister’s fiancée.

She revealed that she dated Mark for three months at university before he suddenly ghosted her.

After cutting off contact, Mark started dating the woman’s 29-year-old sister, whom he calls Rachel, and the pair are now ready to get married.

The woman admitted that she always felt in her sister’s ‘shadow’, so it bothered her even more when she started having an affair with her ex-boyfriend.

explained the situation AİTAH while describing his tumultuous relationship with Rachel on the subreddit.

The woman admitted that she made it clear that she did not want to attend her sister’s wedding.

But after Rachel and her family branded her a ‘little’ for not taking part, the 27-year-old begged people online to tell her if she was the ‘bum’ in the situation.

A woman questioned whether she was wrong to refuse to attend her sister’s wedding because she married her ex (stock image)

The post was titled: ‘Am I the jerk who refuses to support my sister’s wedding because of the way she treated me?’

She explained: ‘I (27F) have an older sister called Rachel (29F) and she has always been the ‘golden child’ of our family.

‘Growing up, she was smart, beautiful and talented, and I was always in her shadow.

‘My parents were always comparing us, and no matter how hard I tried, I could never measure up to Rachel.

‘He got better grades, had more impressive work and always seemed to get what he wanted without too much effort.’

The 27-year-old girl stated that the bond between the two was further damaged when Rachel started dating her ex-boyfriend Mark.

He added: ‘Fast forward to now: Rachel is engaged and the whole family is obsessed with her wedding. She’s marrying a man I briefly dated in college; Let’s call him Mark.

‘We dated for about three months before he suddenly ghosted me. A few weeks later, Rachel introduced him as her boyfriend.

The 27-year-old girl, whose name was not disclosed, revealed on Reddit that she had a history with her sister’s fiancée.

‘It was incredibly awkward but he dismissed my feelings by saying, ‘You’re not serious.’

The 27-year-old actress admitted that it was extremely difficult for her to move on with her life.

Therefore, she decided to skip the wedding. However, his choice left him in a difficult situation with his family.

‘I’ve tried to move on with my life but every time I see them together it feels like I’m being erased. “Rachel asked me to be the bridesmaid and honestly I don’t want to do that,” she said.

‘I don’t even want to go to the wedding. I told him this and he completely blew up, accusing me of being selfish and harsh.

‘ ‘You are always jealous because I am more successful than you,’ he said.

‘Our parents are pressuring me to ‘get over it’ and be there for him, but after years of being second best, I don’t feel like I owe him anything.’

At the end of the post, she questioned whether she was wrong to abandon her sister’s wedding.

She wrote: ‘Some of my friends agree that I should set boundaries and not let him walk all over me.

‘Others think I’m unimportant and it’s just about old sibling rivalry. To tell you the truth, I was devastated.

People online flooded the comments section and rushed to his defense as he lashed out at his sister, whom he calls Rachel.

‘Am I the idiot who refuses to support my sister’s wedding because of the way she treated me and her history with her fiance?’

People online flooded the comments section and rushed to defend Rachel while criticizing her.

One person said: ‘This is just a power play by your sister, stand your ground… believe me your crazy sister is insecure and obsessed with you because you’re better than her. Next time try to find his deepest wounds and whenever he tries to hurt, stick your finger in his wounds and keep bending until it breaks. ‘He’s not an asshole.’

Another user commented: ‘He’s not a jerk. Your feelings are valid and you should never do anything you don’t want to do.’

‘He’s not a jerk. An invitation is not a call. Your sister and your family must learn to accept NO for an answer. “No, it’s a complete sentence,” wrote another.

A fourth person added: ‘Don’t you like it when people try to shame you into doing what they want? Not that damn hole. ‘I would set boundaries and block anyone who crossed them.’