Wife’s Mother-in-Law Upset After Accidentally Causing Conflict in Thanksgiving Planning

A woman asks for advice on a matter Thanksgiving family drama.

The 26-year-old returned to Reddit “Am I the A——” forum? on Tuesday, November 19, to detail a situation involving her mother-in-law. The 28-year-old explained that her husband’s parents have always hosted. thanksgiving dinner On the Saturday after the holiday, but this year the couple accidentally made other plans.

“We purchased non-refundable tickets (almost $200) to a dinner theater over a year ago,” the woman, who posted anonymously as TheRealMCHammer815, explained. “When we bought these, we didn’t realize the next day was Saturday. About 2 weeks later.”

She said she “immediately texted” her mother-in-law about the scheduling conflict, adding: “Since my husband and I (and my kids) stay home for the real holidays, we invited them over to our house for the real Thanksgiving.”

However, her mother-in-law was not happy.

“My father-in-law told my husband that he knew they were going to celebrate Thanksgiving on Saturday,” she shared, noting that she was implying that she and her husband were actually waiting for one of her father-in-law’s “funerals” to finally conclude. come and visit.

“We have a medically complex son, they live an hour away and it is difficult to travel with him,” the mother emphasized.

Later, after telling his father-in-law about the scheduling conflict a year in advance, he asked fellow Reddit users if he was wrong for “not eating the cost of those tickets.”

The woman also posted a few updates to her original post, saying: a date “In almost three years, I got excited and didn’t think to check when Thanksgiving was.”

“They also don’t care to see or talk to us the rest of the year, it’s only a problem during the holidays,” he concluded.

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The post had nearly 3,000 upvotes as of Thursday, November 21, while Reddit users flocked to the comments section to share their thoughts.

One commenter firmly believes the woman is not an “a—–” and notes that mothers-in-law should be happy for their sons and daughters-in-law to enjoy a night out.

“It’s ridiculous that your mother-in-law would use this against you,” they wrote. “It was an easy mistake to make. Use your tickets, enjoy your night, it’s a special privilege. I can only imagine how difficult it can be with a medically complex child, but when you get the chance you need to take breaks and make a special evening for you and your husband.”

“Go have a great time and don’t waste your time with guilt,” they added.

Another user accepted this offer by calling out to the woman’s husband. “NTA (not a——). But your husband needs to take care of his parents, not you,” they said.

One commenter offered a different perspective, sharing that they could understand why the woman acted the way she did. father-in-law they are sad.

“You started this story by saying that your mother-in-law ALWAYS makes thanksgiving the following Saturday. “In terms of holiday traditions, I consider dates like this to be a ‘permanent’ appointment until I talk about it as a family and change plans,” they wrote, “so I think it’s a little silly to change plans without discussing it with them first and then letting them know.”

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Another Reddit user disagreed completely, writing: “This is a one-time thing. They have a lot on their plate. (My mother-in-law) could and should have been generous and told them it was okay, we could come back on the show next year and just have a good time.” .Is this so difficult now???”