Woman’s Mother-in-Law Didn’t Invite Her to Thanksgiving, Drama Begins

• A woman shared her family drama about this year’s Thanksgiving celebration on Reddit
• She wrote that she did not invite her mother-in-law’s family to dinner, but changed her mind and invited them back.
• She shared some of her mother-in-law’s Thanksgiving antics over the years and asked if she was wrong for choosing to stay away this year.

A woman returned reddit with major Thanksgiving dilemma.

An anonymous caption reads: “My mother-in-law has been ruining Thanksgiving for me for years and somehow makes it more complicated every year.”

The woman says that on a typical holiday, her mother-in-law “snaps everyone and makes the whole atmosphere uncomfortable, but I always tried to be helpful and understanding.” I was very impressed by slurping the dessert I brought (to my brother-in-law). Thanksgiving has never been the same for me since.

The woman also recalls one year when her mother-in-law “passively-aggressively told everyone in a group text that she would need us to split the dishes and bring something because it was so expensive.” They all do it every year anyway. She was also annoyed that although the poster showed a lot of cooking, her mother-in-law only gave her items that she “couldn’t mess up” and didn’t need to be cooked.

“The following year, in addition to breaking up, he texted us this: menushe would purchase all the ingredients for us, instruct us to Venmo our share, and drop them off along with her preferred dishes she wanted served,” the woman writes. She noted that her mother-in-law didn’t bring her fresh ingredients, so she had to buy some anyway.

This year, the mother-in-law brought a new twist to the Thanksgiving drama. “He came to my house a few weeks ago and politely didn’t invite us, saying ‘there are too many people this year,'” she writes. “I’m relieved I don’t have to spend the day with him. Until I turned and looked at my daughter’s face. And my husband’s face when I told him this. “They were both extremely hurt by being excluded.”

The poster states that her mother-in-law did not tell other family members about the move, but decided that for dessert on Thanksgiving, everyone could “meet at MY house for pie and a bonfire.” she says of the suggestion: “My kids would be devastated if they couldn’t see their cousins ​​for Thanksgiving, so we’ll make it work, I guess I’ve been a really good sport.”

Then, just a week before the holiday, “My husband got a call from his mother and told her her plans had fallen through again and would we like to come too?”

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Logistically, she notes, she has already purchased all the food for her family’s celebration at home. But the poster didn’t want to go anymore from a “moral” standpoint, writing: “Why would I want to go there after all the disappointment she’s caused everyone this year? On top of that, her attitude about it REALLY bothered me; she decided to stop inviting us when she knew my husband might be upset.” Realizing that I would be angry about having to change plans again, she went to him. Even though she thought she was right to disagree, she wrote: “My children are unhappy. unhappy.”

Commenters are overwhelmingly on the poster’s side. “OP, this is your opportunity to start your own family tradition. Thanksgiving at YOUR house,” one person wrote, adding that they were also disappointed that her husband didn’t stand up to this mom.

“Your MIL was difficult and you tried to be understanding, it’s only fair to stick to your plans,” another person wrote. One added: “Please stop giving in to his whims. Tell everyone that he didn’t invite you to Thanksgiving and lied to everyone about it. You’re covering for his shit by staying silent, and that’s causing things to snowball every year. It also causes more harm to your children. “What they’ve learned is that people can treat them like dirt and they deserve it because no one supports them.”

The original poster has been updated with a comment in which she tells her husband to tell his mother that they won’t change their plans. He stated that she was “dragging her feet” about talking to him and that the couple was “still at odds over how little effort he was making to confront them.”

He continued: “He claims it’s in the past and they won’t change, so what’s the point? I told her that at least I wouldn’t feel like the bad guy all the time, forcing her to break away from her family and her kids would see her standing up for us.

She also stated that she and other family members called her mother-in-law “many times” about her bad behavior. She said she felt like her mother-in-law had been “really trying the last few months,” but things changed with the holiday drama.