Woman warns husband could be cheating on her after revealing strange morning habit

An angry woman revealed that her husband spent an hour in the toilet every morning before work and came home late every night.

Using British parenting platform Mumsnet, the frustrated partner revealed that her partner spends too much time ‘watching videos’ in the bathroom and is therefore often late for work, which means he has to stay later.

The mother of two said her husband doesn’t get home until 8pm most nights, so he doesn’t help with his toddler and baby’s bedtime routine.

After asking others for advice, many people rushed to the comments, suspecting that her husband might be having an affair.

after reading: ‘My DH sets an alarm for 6am every morning because his commute to work takes an hour.

A frustrated woman revealed that her husband spends an hour in the toilet every morning before going to work ( stock image )

‘He gets up frequently at these hours but spends up to an hour in the toilet. I’m sure you’re out there watching videos or reading nonsense.

‘He’ll then start getting ready, meaning he won’t get into work until late, which means he works late and never gets home before 8pm.

‘We have a baby and a toddler and he never comes to bedtime and also never helps when we’re on the toilet in the morning!

‘Will AIBU tell him a few real facts? He complains that he is always late for work and “doesn’t know where to go in the morning.”‘

Some questioned whether the man was having an affair, considering that he came home late every evening and took his phone to the toilet.

One person said: ‘Get him an alarm in the toilet. If it doesn’t improve I will consider whether he needs to see a doctor or if he is having an affair.’

Another added: “Unfortunately I see no other reason to spend excessive amounts of time in the bathroom and I don’t believe it’s just a ‘guy thing’ situation, other than either secretly hiding something or avoiding something.” someone.

‘I’ve never met a man who stayed in the bathroom so long that he was late for work every day. The only time I heard of this happening was in threads on MN where OH spent a long time texting another woman in the bathroom.

‘I’m certainly not saying that’s the case for the operation, but it seems like she’s avoiding any morning routines with her baby and toddler and is staying so late for work that she’s having to stay behind and conveniently miss her bath and bedtime routines. ‘

Speaking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, the frustrated wife revealed that her husband spent so much time “watching videos” in the toilet that he was often late for work, which meant he had to stay in the toilet afterwards.

Others, meanwhile, believed her husband did this on purpose to avoid childcare responsibilities.

One person said: ‘He does this on purpose because he believes you should do everything. He had kids but he doesn’t want any responsibility and he’s ready to see you throw yourself into the ground. Definitely talk to him. That’s not clear.’

Another said: ‘Is this a man’s job? I can’t imagine any woman I know would spend an hour on the toilet unless she was in very bad shape. Isn’t he hiding from his own children so he doesn’t have to parent them? Cheeky blah blah blah.’

Another wrote: ‘Spends an hour in the toilet watching videos? Who wants to spend an hour in the toilet!

He knows what he’s doing op. Let me guess; Did this ‘toilet habit’ only develop after having children? He does this on purpose so that he doesn’t have any responsibility to look after the little ones!’

The woman responded to people’s comments by saying that she didn’t think her husband was having an affair, but that he was probably shirking his responsibilities.

Some people believed that her husband did this on purpose to avoid childcare responsibilities. Meanwhile, others have suggested practical solutions that might solve the problem

He said: ‘He’s not in a relationship. I’m sure he’s watching cycling and dog videos, I can hear them! We have more than one toilet, so it’s no problem. It is time spent on other things.

‘If he had been more willing, he could have been out the door at 7, be at work by 8 and leave around 4.30-5, and be home by 6 before going to bed. I mentioned all this and he said it was his free time and I was home all day.

‘Anything I say about his time at work is thrown back at me because I’m not at work. I think you’re right about that, but I can never make time for myself to do anything else like go to the toilet or exercise.’

One person added: ‘Courtesy aside, your DH literally said he would rather sit on the toilet for hours than help you or spend time with you and your children.’

Meanwhile, others have suggested practical solutions that could solve the problem completely.

One person said: ‘You can remove the lock and send the kids back to dad’s and/or take out his phone so he can’t play with it.

‘If you fail, open the door and ask him what he’s doing? If you’re standing in front of him, he won’t be able to deny it.

‘Then take it from your hand. You can also change the alarm to dethrone PDQ. Or just get ready to have a big Barney. Why should your definition of reasonable behavior be his?

‘Instead of justifying yourself to him, let him justify himself to you. Joke about his childish behavior at family gatherings. Ask his mother for advice. Isn’t that the truth?’

Another said: ‘And I’d say: “So you don’t want to be a parent? Great. OK, so if you want to engage with the kids we need to start sorting and sorting plans.”

The woman responded to people’s comments by saying that she didn’t think her husband was having an affair, but that he was probably shirking his responsibilities.

‘This may sound a bit harsh but my point is, you can’t give up on parenting. Does he really want his children to love him, spend time with them, etc etc?

‘If not, you can handle it now. He may have been horrified and came to his senses, but….’

Another wrote: ‘The only thing I can think of is for you to get up at the same time as him and go to the gym or for a run while he’s still at home.

‘Make this very clear, both verbally and via text, once you’ve put on your shoes but before you run for the door.

‘Unless he’s someone who can’t be trusted to look after your children (and your decision on this should inform your follow-up process), he’ll have to spend daddy time with them until you return home. Make sure you are home so he can go to work at the usual time.

‘I’m not saying it’s an easy choice, but it logically moves the issue forward. Everything she says about not being able to prepare while taking care of her kids is something you can use when she suggests you can. I hope you find a way.’